Monday, November 17, 2008

Oh brother,

I knew this would come back to haunt me. I just didn't think it would be so soon. My one moment of weakness in front of a bunch of kids and at least one of their parents.
Jake just came in from playing outside and said Mommy, is the middle finger bad? like when you hold it up like this??
My first thought was oh great, now I've gone and taught the whole neighborhood how to flip the bird. Please don't make it be my kid showing everybody....please let it be some other degenerate child.
Me: Who was doing that?
J: (gulp)....I was.
great. just great.
Me: Why?
J: Well...........well.......Brady started it!
*Oh thank goodness!*
J: He told us all to do it! And then, and then John said it was bad. And I'm sorry mommy, I didn't know it was bad! (he said, in his very rushed, please I don't want to be in trouble voice.)
Me: Well, now ya know. Don't do it again ok?
J: Ok Mommy, I won't!

Being a parent is hard. Especially now when the whole social aspect comes into it. I'm very conscious of what other parents think of my kids. Because what they see in them, is a direct reflection of me. And I don't want to be that parent, you know? The one who lets their kid run wild through the neighborhood with no boundaries or rules. (and flips people off driving down the street) And I really don't want my kid to be that kid either. The kid who no one wants to let play at their house. Or the one who when they look at they think That poor kid with that awful mother.
ha ha! I know I'm being rather dramatic, but this stuff really does go through my head!
Parent/teacher confrence tomorrow. Let's hope Jake is not that kid at school. ;)


samport said...

I know exactly what you mean! I know a set of THOSE kids and there are just certain things about THOSE kids that I don't want to see in my own kids.

You're a great mom and you have 2 really great kids. I wouldn't say that if I didn't mean it.


samport said...

dang it, Sean didn't sign out. I guess you know it's me by the :) though, right?


Melissa said...

You are a good mom and your kid won't be that kid, even if you have an occasional outburst at the neighborhood bad boys. I've had my share, that's for sure...

Jami said...

OH, just wait until you worry about being a bad grandparent! tonight my granddaughter Mia was in the car with me, my mom and Jennifer. The discussion was about a mom who nursed her boy until he was 8 years old. I say something like "he's old enough to holler, "hey mom, can I suck on your boob?" and of course, Mia begins to be the Mina bird she is and repeats over and over again....."can I suck on your boob"???? "can I suck on your boob?" eeeek ghad! Me open mouth and insert foot!

Cheryl Wray said...

Oh I think you are a great Mom!!!

Jude said...

Aw, you know Jake is NOT that kid... we all make mistakes, say things in front of them we wish we hadn't, etc. I remember in third grade we all duscussed the fact that if you put THAT finger in the air, you would go to hell... oh my word... why we thought that I will never know! LOL.